Memorial Butterfly Release

Our Annual Remembrance Event: A Memorial Butterfly Release


For the past two years, Woolley-Boglioli Funeral Home has hosted a private butterfly release event to commemorate and honor those individuals served by the firm during the previous twelve months. “People tell us it’s a remarkably healing remembrance event,” shares co-owner Bill Boglioli. “We print and send invitations to the families we’ve cared for during the year and the responses of those who have attended the butterfly release have been very positive.”


What’s Involved in Our Annual Butterfly Release?


It’s always held in September, a month when the weather is kind and life slows down just a bit. It’s the time of year when we’re reminded of John Updike’s poem, September (see at the left).
In the early hours of a September afternoon, everyone comes together at the Woolley-Boglioli Funeral Home to enjoy conversation and refreshments before the butterfly release takes place. Of course, our guests been in the funeral home before; but this time things are different: everything’s colorful and bright. “Guests aren’t expecting the transformation and it’s really fun to see smiles when there was once only sadness for them here.”
The next hour or so of relaxed time gives attendees time to connect with one another and helps to create–and even deepen–new relationships.


“The breezes taste of apple peel The air is full of smells to feel-Ripe fruit, old footballs, Burning brush, New books, erasers, Chalk, and such. The bee, his hive, Well-honeyed hum, And Mother cuts Chrysanthemums. Like plates washed clean With suds, the days Are polished with A morning haze.”


We always ask Kirsten Kristensen, owner of Tea4U to cater the event and our guests are often amazed by the care Kristen’s staff provides. This is no “self-serve” event; everyone is seated at a table and served as they would be in the Tea4U tea room in Oakhurst. Attendees are given their choice of wonderful tea and a selection of tantalizing, delicious scones and petit fours. “In so many ways, Kirsten works magic, changing the feel of the funeral home to one of ease, joy and celebration.”


When conversation and dining slow, a staff member opens the event by thanking all in attendance for trusting Woolley-Boglioli Funeral Home to care for their deceased loved one. An ecumenical service follows.


Guests are then escorted into the Dolores Garden and given a small box containing a Painted Lady butterfly. Each box is opened carefully and–while a presenter shares inspirational thoughts and stories of transformation– the butterfly inside is given a chance to acclimate to its surroundings. In just a short time, guests can witness the joyous liberation of the Painted Lady they’ve been given. The remembrance event lasts only about two hours, giving our guests ample time to return home before dark.




Our Annual Remembrance Event: A Memorial Butterfly Release


Butterflies are beautiful, graceful, enchanting; seeing a butterfly can make a heart soar in happiness, if only for a moment.


And we know something else: those mourning a recent death–like the family members invited each year–deserve a meaningful opportunity to come together with others who grieve, in communal celebration of their deceased loved ones. Our annual butterfly release is one such remembrance event. In understanding company, each guest can send his or her butterfly aloft to carry a message of love, hope, and gratitude. Together, we affirm the continuity of our relationships with those we’ve loved and lost.


Melanie Siano, the staff member responsible for making these annual remembrance programs such a success, did a lot of research to find the right butterfly for this important task. She chose Painted Ladies because they’re small in size but robust. And in choosing Swallowtail Farms as the supplier, Melanie ensured the ethical treatment of these lovely creatures.


“I’ve watched you now a full half-hour; self-poised upon that yellow flower And, little Butterfly! Indeed I know not if you sleep or feed. How motionless! - not frozen seas More motionless! And then What joy awaits you, when the breeze Hath found you out among the trees, And calls you forth again! ~ William Wordsworth, “ To a Butterfly”



It’s a Private Remembrance Program


Our annual butterfly release event is exclusively for those families we’ve served during the previous 12 months. If you’re one such family, you’ll be receiving your personal invitation in plenty of time to send in an RSVP, mark your calendars, and make any necessary transportation arrangements. Of course, if you’ve got any questions about Woolley-Boglioli Funeral Home’s private remembrance event, please call us at (732) 946-3322 or send us an email using the form on our Contact Us page.


Sources: Wordsworth Quote: Best Quote Collection
Updike Poem: Garden Digest



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